Feeling complete with your own personal mental and physical standpoints Is essential If you ever want a fulfilling relationship. Knowing your own ability to live vigilantly day to day, being gratified with the prospects of how you are living your life up until this point. This is what determines whether your ready to take the step into entering a relationship. Every point in ones life is a learning experience. Treating past relationships as learning experiences help to better your understanding of what our really looking to gain out of future relationships.
The following paragraphs discuss a story of my past. This story revolves around a relationship taking place at a negative point in my life. So my lesson to you is one I learned the hard way. Being happy with yourself Is vital before attempting to by happy with someone else. To mentally set the scene for my story, I will give some background Into my mental and physical standpoint. During the time of this story, I was under a lot of stress from various circumstances. I had Just recently lost my Job at Subway and had no source of income.
Because I lost my job, I had no longer the money nor the resources to continue with athletic training. Taking the three months off from athletic training had a negative effect on my physical appearance. With a noticeable loss of physical appearance, my self esteem began to drop slightly. So all together, threw one run of bad luck into another, I was spiraling down into a depression like state. It all started the first week of grade 10. I was walking to math class and I met up with a few of my lunch crew friends. I noticed my friend Ashley talking to Erin Bearing.
Erin was an attractive, smart and fashionable girl. I always had a thing for smartly. In school she had straight Ass, and was also the leader of the female wrestling team. I felt a little up on myself that day for some reason. I figured there was no better time then the present to chat it up a little. The conversation went quite well, which was different from what I expected. She even asked for my number so we could continue our talk later that night. “Why would she be interested in me? ,” I said to myself. After all, she seemed way out of my league. Within two days we were dating.
I felt I was the luckiest guy alive. I was nothing compared to her. I had little money and I was out of shape. What was a girl with a 94% grade point average doing with a smack like me? After about three weeks into our relationship I began to notice a dependence to be with Erin. At that time my emotional state was even more flushed due to my relationship circumstances. I felt that since she was so much better mentally and physically then I was, that I should do whatever It takes to show her had strong feelings for her. I notice now that this Is what people call infatuation and obsession. Old me early one night that she no longer felt that spark she at first felt. Her final words to me were “l feel that at this point in our relationship, you will be at my side no matter what happens. Where is my ambition to make you happy when you already say you love me. ” Those words made me more miserable and depressed then I had ever felt in ages. Threw her words though, I had began to realize how right she was. It wasn’t that I loved her, but it was that I felt so low about myself, that I gained all y happiness threw being with someone I felt was superior to whom I should have been with.
This with time, had became my mental obsession. What was the fatal error in my relationship that ended it so abruptly? Learning from life’s situations had taught me a lot in my story. You have to be happy with yourself and the way your life is going, before you can add another person into your equation. A mate is not someone to depend on in order for you to be happy. You have to be the one who is happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. That is a valuable lesson I had learned in life.